Homophobphobia

by Jordan Spencer Cunningham on

There seems to be a mentality rising very sharply in popularity that is even more than just disliking truly homophobic people. Imagine with me for a moment…

A somewhat conservative fellow sporting a polo shirt and jeans responds to three people to his front, all staring daggers at him: “I’m sorry, but I won’t back down. I simply do not believe that homosexuality is a moral thing to practice,” he says.

Instantly the three are set on the defense. “You’re intolerant!” shouts a fellow heterosexual who is in full support of the entire homosexual battle who also is of the conservative fellow’s same religion.

“You and your church are demented and evil!” screams another fellow heterosexual who has no religious affiliation, spittle flying from her mouth as she shakes both of her fists.

“You’re an inhuman monster!” howls the only homosexual of the group.

The conservative fellow raises his palms in a sort of peacefully defensive way. “Woah, woah– calm down– I never said you were scum or anything; I’m just as entitled to my own–“

The three pro-homosexual affiliates cry out in chorus, cutting the conservative fellow off: “Shut up, you intolerant, evil, monstrous homophobe! How dare you take away our rights? How dare you speak of our homosexual brethren and sistren as if they are sub-human creatures? How dare you speak of their beautiful relationships as if they’re twisted and mentally disturbed? How dare you speak of this belief as if it’s a menace to society? An immoral movement? You’re the sub-human creature! You’re the twisted and mentally disturbed one! You’re the menace to society! You support the immoral movement!…”

The conservative fellow eventually turns and walks away because he realizes that there is no making peace with these people unless he converts his views completely to share their own.

(All right. That may have been slightly painful, but it’s for a good cause. Now, before I go on, let me quell the hatred likely burning in some readers with a bit of personal belief: No, I don’t hate homosexual people, and no, I by no means believe that all homosexual-lifestyle-supporting people act this way. However, there is a portion of this group significantly large, loud, and/or vicious enough to make my point valid, and this loud and obviously intolerant group is having a heyday with the media.)

The rising fad seems to be that anyone who so much as disagrees with the homosexually-supportive bandwagon is instantly a menace to society and human rights whether or not that person actually lashes out in hatred and intolerance. I’ve personally listened to people say these kinds of things directly to me, read people ranting similar things online, and heard people say similar things in public media, always in response to a person or a group of people who are merely holding to what they believe, which is that living a homosexual lifestyle is immoral and will not yield true and everlasting happiness. I call this type of mentality homophobphobia as this very vocal group of people have an irrational fear that drives them to lash out defensively and offensively against anyone who has differing beliefs and who expresses them, even peacefully and tolerantly. They will point fingers at those they say offend them and declare that these people are homophobes and are intolerant and care nothing about the people they influence.

And if you’re burning with anger right now, then you either did not read this properly or you are one of the people of the homophobphobic group I mentioned. I have said nothing against homosexually active people today except that I don’t agree with their lifestyles, which I am allowed to do and still maintain my preservation of human rights. I have said quite a bit about the hypocrisy of more than likely less than a majority of the homosexual population and their heterosexual acolytes– demanding love and tolerance and acceptance while giving none in return. If you are angry right now, again, it is either because you misunderstand who I am questioning here (homophobphobs, not homosexuals) or you are a member of the homophobphobic group (anger, outrage, or accusations of intolerance or inhumanity against anyone who disagrees with them, again,  are among the chiefest symptoms of homophobphobia).

Now, for more real-world examples, I offer these (they aren’t really necessary as this noise is so loud one can’t help but hear it, but here they are anyway):

To begin with one of my own personal experiences, I was happily and tiredly riding my little missionary bike down a dark street in Arizona on my way home while a missionary for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day saints back in 2011. We happened across one of the many joggers in the area and began to talk to her to see if she would be interested in the Christian message we had to share. Boy, was she ever! I specifically remember her laughing a little snottily at us and telling us her sob story about how hard it was for her to leave the LDS Church, how terrible the LDS people treated her and her homosexual brother, how much she hates the Church and its people, and how demented and evil President Thomas S. Monson is. She told us about how she smokes and drinks and how happy she is away from the Church doing it. She told us about how hateful and vengeful prophets of the LDS Church were in the 70s but how they’ve suddenly changed the way they talk about gays and lesbians so as to not get in trouble.  I said that the Church’s official stance and outlook on the matter has always been the same and that I personally have read statements of theirs from the 70s on the matter (which she obviously didn’t) and that it was that homosexuality could be compared to an addiction that is obviously one of the most difficult to overcome but that could be overcome with the help of the Savior. I apologized for the supposed actions of the LDS members in the ward she and her brother grew up (but I doubted that their actions were as terrible as she ambiguously referred to– more than likely it blew up in her mind over the decades). Then she spoke in emotionally-charged and accusatory tones saying that her brother and her brother’s (husband? partner?) had been happily together for five years, and she thinks that their relationship is beautiful, and she resents that I said that their relationship is immoral. You get my point, but I will go on just enough to tell you that I told her that resent that she so easily labels everything that I believe and live evil and demented, and that perhaps if she expects tolerance she ought to give some herself. She was silent after that, and we parted ways.

Another example I will take from a website that is supposedly run by Mormons who want actively gay people to be able to do everything in the LDS Church that heterosexuals do (which, if you know the LDS doctrine at all, you know how fundamentally absurd that is as active homosexuality is clearly condemned in the Bible multiple times, and chastity is defined multiple times in the Book of Mormon and Doctrine and Covenants as sexual relations only between a married man and woman). This article, taken from Affirmation.org, gives us a gently homophobphobic example in response to a talk given by an LDS Church leader. If you’re familiar with the talk in question given by President Boyd K. Packer of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles in October of 2010, you’ll realize just how silly this person sounds (and the anti-Packer image to the right and the top of the article become increasingly ludicrous):

Local and national community leaders decried Packer’s speech as anti-gay, misinformed and irresponsible out of concern that those struggling with accepting their sexual orientation may choose suicide as the second-highest leader in their church declares them “immoral.”

“We are who we are,” Ethington said. “We cannot change, and you cannot change us. The more you say this, the more dead bodies you leave behind.”

Ethington acknowledged that Packer and the Mormon Church has a right to express their views.

“But there are consequences for your words, he said. “These are our lives and we will protect them at any cost.”

“To the youth of the church who watched,” Ethington said, “We love you. You are beautiful and perfect just the way you are. Do not listen to others who do not love you for who you are.”

When President Packer says this…

Nowhere are the generosity and the kindness and mercy of God more manifest than in repentance. Do you understand the consummate cleansing power of the Atonement made by the Son of God, our Savior, our Redeemer? He said, “I, God, have suffered these things for all, that they might not suffer if they would repent.” In that supernal act of love, the Savior paid the penalties for our sins so that we might not have to pay.

…it’s hard to believe that he hates or has no love for homosexual people the way this and thousands of other articles make it seem. In fact, only a very small portion of the talk– not even a fourth– is specifically about the immorality of acting on homosexual feelings. A greater portion of the discourse is about pornography and immorality in general– including our hundreds of millions of brothers and sisters across the world who participate in sexual relations with varied levels of commitment (or the lack thereof) outside of marriage. He in no way says that the people who are tempted to practice or even those who do practice homosexuality are evil, bad, hate-worthy, or “immoral”, as the person quoted seems to imply that he said, but certainly that the acts are and that the acts can be avoided and overcome as hard as it may be to do so. I would rate this sort of homophobphobia as very mild but very subtle– this guy is trying to get confused teenagers to believe that they are unloved by their Church leaders and fellow members but that the homosexual community will accept them no matter what, which is one of the biggest loads of lies I have ever read; while it is true that some members of the Church unfortunately do not even try to act in a Christ-like and loving manner toward our homosexual friends, as a whole and as a policy and a doctrine, the Church is loving, tolerant, and kind, yet firm and unyielding in the belief that God has mandated sexual relationships only between man and woman, lawfully wedded. In the Church’s eyes, active homosexual members are treated in the same manner as so many thousands of active members who commit heterosexual transgressions– with as much love, respect, gentleness and kindness as is humanly possible as we strive to help them repent so that they can enjoy all blessings that God wants to give them, which chiefly among them is a lasting happiness that can only be known through living God’s laws the best that one can, repenting when one makes mistakes. It’s true, again, that some members of the Church (and of any church or group, quite honestly) hypocritically judge others and cause great grief and pain for our actively and passively homosexual friends, and that does need to change, which the Church institutionally recognizes. On the other hand, so many people keep on petitioning the Church to change the doctrine on homosexuality, which again is quite ludicrous if one understands what the Church actually is and how it will not change in this manner, and they seem to think that a church leader (an historian, by the way, not the historian) apologizing for the pain that homosexuals in California have felt is actually a possible step toward doctrine changing or even a slight dissension between him and other Church leaders who feel differently and not actually what it is: an apology on behalf of the Church for some of its members acting in a non-Christian way. It’s actually a little funny as the author of this article seems to think that the members are slowly changing the leaders’ views by treating others of differing beliefs with love and kindness– as if the leaders want to viciously excommunicate every homosexual Mormon they can discover and inspire rifts in communities to keep homosexuals from influencing the LDS population– when it is actually the other way around.

Another example somewhat more vehement but still mild in its presentation taken from Latterdaymainstreet.com:

The age of homophobes is over. They are a throwback to a different age, when people were ignorant of the realities of sexual identity…

I’m certainly not wishing death on anyone, not even someone as hateful as Mr. Packer; that would be almost as mean as saying what he just did in conference. But I think he is the ring leader among the octo- and novo-generian leadership of LDS Inc. opposing same-sex marriage. There are probably at least a few younger apostles who are either sympathetic or at the very least indifferent to the issue of same-sex marriage (e.g., Henry Eyring and Dieter Uchtdorf strike me as being possible candidates…)

Really? Did you just say that? Again, referring to my comments earlier and links to President Packer’s talk, there is no room for people to even whisper anything of this sort, but, because of their homophobphobia, they can only but enjoy to inflame the insecurities already present and twist what were actually loving words into hateful and spiteful words. This author (and the previous ones) are using the power of suggestion to suggest to people unfamiliar with Packer’s talk or who are homosexual themselves that President Packer is a homophobic, hateful, old, grumpy jerk. Then, even though his talk implies nothing of the sort (aside from his gruff, 86-year-old voice and direct manner of speech, perhaps?), those who read or listen to it will fan their already burning flames of resentment just to agree with the author, especially if they are already on the homosexually-supportive bandwagon and have experienced inflammatory and derogatory comments before. Success– the authors have achieved their goal of turning a church leader into an inhuman monster in the eyes of the public.

So. If you hate me after reading this, you’re most likely a homophobphobe. You must again realize that I don’t have any animosity toward homosexuals and do not intend to force them to live a certain way. But if you’re truly a homophobphobe, nothing I say will make any difference, so I’m just going to walk away while you’re angrily hurting nobody but yourself.